Clinical Associate Professor David Horgan Psychiatrist





Dear Reader,

I am truly sorry if you are reading this website following the suicide of someone close to you. I hope what I have to say will be helpful to you in this extremely difficult situation and time in your life.


My name is David Horgan, and I am a medical practitioner who has specialised as a

Psychiatrist. As part of my work through the registered charity, Australian Suicide

Prevention Foundation (, I am providing this website as a voluntary

service to the community, to offer some assistance in a very complicated area.

Regrettably, you are not the only one affected by the suicide of someone close to you. Unfortunately, about 60 people each week commit suicide in Australia, and ten to thirty times that number of people attempt suicide. I hope the following information will help you or someone close to you.



The first thing you must understand is that people who commit suicide nearly always suffer

from a psychiatric illness, often undiagnosed, which drives them to suicide. Medical

research over the years, repeated in very many countries around the world, shows that the

vast majority (95% or more) of people who commit suicide were suffering from a severe

psychiatric illness at the time. The illness is nearly always Depression, with a minority of people suffering from Schizophrenia, Alcohol Addiction or Drug problems. There are a number of other equally painful but statistically less common illnesses which also affect people, unfortunately driving them to suicide.


It is not generally understood that the vast majority of severe emotional illnesses are in fact breakdowns in the internal chemistry of our bodies, brought about by stress. The broken chemistry is the source of great suffering for the person involved, who often does not realise why they are having such trouble coping, and why they are suffering so much.



What usually happens unfortunately, is that depression, and other psychiatric illnesses, distort the thinking of the individual who is affected by the illness. They see everything around them in a very negative way, see the past in a very negative way, and in particular, see the future as guaranteed to be negative and full of emotional suffering. The illness also makes people believe (wrongly) that there is no hope of significant improvement. The person is then left with the one hundred percent conviction that life is currently full of suffering, and will continue in this way well into the future.



Yes, unfortunately. Dr John Horden, a previous president of the main GP organisation in

Britain, is quoted as saying that his depression was more painful than the heart attack and

the kidney stones he suffered also (quoted in Malignant Sadness by Prof Lewis Wolpert).

Frightened by this picture of guaranteed endless suffering, people attempt to escape the

pain by suicide. In many cases, people see what they are doing as a form of euthanasia

for an illness they believe is incurable, without realising or being able to believe that the

illness may well be cured in very many cases.


Even if someone close to you has died in this tragic way, it is very important to let other people know that the illness can indeed by cured should they also be affected by depression.



Another standard distortion of thinking in people with depression, and other psychiatric

illnesses, is that they are a burden on their families and friends, and they are therefore

driven to think it would be a relief for others if they were not alive. Accordingly, very unwell people see their suicide as actually removing a burden from those around them, and do not think of suicide as a major cause of burden to their loved ones.



In Australia each year, approximately 2,000 people die by suicide. About 50,000 people

each year in Australia attempt suicide, but do not die. The simplest explanation is that the

sick bit of the mind wants to die, and the healthy bit of the mind wants to survive, knowing

things will improve. Accordingly, some suicide attempts are desperate efforts to escape suffering and go asleep, with the person not really sure whether they will actually die, but only being desperate to escape. It is the healthy bit of the mind, which sometimes allows people to seek help after an overdose etc., or to indicate to others in some way what has happened.


Nevertheless, please do keep in mind that this is a warning of severe distress and perhaps emotional illness, with a significant risk of the action being repeated in the future. This risk is much less if professional help is sought. It is considered best medical practice for everybody who has deliberately harmed themselves to be psychiatrically assessed afterwards.


There is a huge amount of information on



Almost every human emotion is likely to be triggered off by the suicide of someone we know. Disbelief that the action could have occurred, anger, great distress, panic, intense sadness etc. etc. are all perfectly normal standard reactions. It is also understandable that people will look for a cause for the suicide; it is very important not to interpret one situation or one event as the cause of suicide. As indicated above, nearly all suicides take place in those who have quietly developed a severe psychiatric illness, and final events tend to be the last straw that broke the camelʼs back, not the cause in themselves. Just as a heart attack may be triggered by a small amount of exercise or a vigorous dream, we all realise such events will only cause a heart attack in someone with heart disease that has developed due to multiple factors over a period of time. The same applies to suicide, being the last event in a complicated scenario which has resulted in psychiatric illness, waiting for almost any negative to be the final straw.



Unfortunately, there is a risk of you yourself developing depression as a result of the shock

of this event and the subsequent stresses and consequences. If the emotional pain is not

starting to improve within a few months, you may have developed depression as a

complication of your own grief reaction. Do discuss this with your own doctor. Australian

research has indicated that at least forty per cent of people develop depression following

the death of someone close to them, so that they now have two conditions to deal with, a

normal grief reaction plus a depressive illness needing treatment.


However, you certainly will recover from the emotional pain, although you will of course never forget the person who has died so tragically. If the pain is not starting to reduce within a few months, I strongly urge you to see your doctor or a counsellor to ensure that healing of your emotions is taking place normally, and to ensure you yourself have not developed depression as a result of the traumatic event.



Unfortunately, medical research indicates that the suicide of a family member is associated statistically with an increased suicide risk for other members of the family. This may be due to the risk that a number of members of the same family have inherited the genes that predispose them to depression or other psychiatric illnesses. The same illness may tempt other family members to suicide also, if the illnesses are not diagnosed and treated effectively.


Therefore, just as we advise the family members of someone who has had a

heart attack to have their cholesterol checked, it is important that family members of

someone who has died by suicide are themselves very aware of the early signs of

depression and other psychiatric illnesses, such as finding it hard to read or follow TV.


“Anniversary reactions” are a particular problem in dealing with grief, and this includes those close to the person who died, wondering about dying themselves also. Special event dates, such as the anniversary of the death, special family dates and birthdays, and special dates in our society (such as Christmas etc.) are all periods of increased emotional reflection and concern.


While we all miss those close to us who die, it may help to remember that the person who died from suicide did not know that there was in fact very effective treatment to stop the emotional pain they were trying to escape. The person who died would obviously not want other people to die also due to not being aware of the very effective treatments available.



The organisation listed below will give you assistance, and we are encouraging as many as possible to list here also.


You can try links such as:



There are many people willing and able to help you, and able to assist you in the long

haul, not just the immediate crisis. These include:


  1. Your family doctor


  1. Local mental health services or clinics


  1. has a section on the front page labelled “emergency

help in Australia”. Clicking on this section will give you website addresses and also

telephone numbers of voluntary agencies around Australia who can help you.



Once again, I am truly sorry if you are reading this letter, following the suicide of someone

close to you. I hope the information I have provided is of use to you. I would welcome your

feedback about this site, any suggestions you may have, and any support you can offer or

organise. My email address is (


Donations to suicide prevention and emotional assistance for the

bereaved are always welcome.


I wish you well for the future.

David Horgan.



Clinical Associate Professor, Department of Psychiatry, University of Melbourne

Former Senior Specialist, Royal Melbourne Hospital

Consultant Psychiatrist


Fellow of the Royal Australian & New Zealand College of Psychiatrists

Member of the Royal College of Psychiatrists (UK)

Diploma in Psychological Medicine (London)

Master of Philosophy in Psychiatry (University of Edinburgh)

Doctorate of Medicine in Psychiatry (University of Melbourne)

Fellow of the Royal College of Physicians (Edinburgh)


Founder/Director of the Australian Suicide Prevention Foundation